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We’ve Moved! Brand Re-launch!

October 30, 2013

Guess what?! It’s so exciting. I took the big step – and moved my private coaching practice to a new spot.

New offers, new look – it’s HERE:



I’ll be rolling out some cool free videos, downloadable transcripts, and super cute icons, designed especially for me!

They’re all going to be for people who have made the big move abroad. Fellow “Strangers in a strange land”.

I’ve been on this journey now 6 years – and it only gets better. I’ve learned a few things that I think will help others.

Come visit, share your stories, laugh, cry. It’s all good.

I’m also back up and writing, my blog will once again have fun pictures and great insights.

You Can’t Change My Mind

November 11, 2012

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Have you ever felt like you were running up against a brick wall in an attempt to change someone else’s mind? You did research, you showed them power point presentations, you explained everything very clearly.

And then they respond with something like, “Ok, I see your point, but I still disagree.”

In some cases, it’s important to be able to disagree and still work or live together. There are many cases where this works – but what do you do if it just doesn’t? Some people resort to manipulation, lying, or threats.  The worst cases, the partnership/relationship/dimplomatic ties dissolve – and that’s the end of that (at huge financial and emotional loss).

What if I told you it’s not about changing someone’s mind, but about their frame-of-reference?

I’m not referring to the frame of reference that physicists talk about. This has nothing to do with the speed of any particular object or its trajectory (nope, and if that’s what you Googled, go ahead and click out – I know its nothing personal).

I’m talking about shifting someone’s reality.

Right, not their perspective, because that may be just how they see things. I am suggesting you get them to change how they experience what is “real”. How we experience what is real, what we feel we know, is connected to emotions and physical sensations.

For example, when my coaching clients are stuck with the idea they can’t change something, “I’m in a corner, I can’t afford to change my job – I’m too invested!” I get them to physically stand up and go to another place in the room to look back at the place they just were. They have to look back and describe what that place looks like (and feels like) from where they are now standing. Then I have them describe the place they are currently standing. Then I have them go to at least three more places in the room, and create a new reality. Imagine themselves on a mountain top or the beach or in a dark alley way. They describe it in detail and how they feel about it.  In the end, the client gets to chose which ‘reality’ they want.

This in turn opens up all kinds of mental doors to the possible solutions that didn’t occur to them before. It’s almost magical.

So, I know you can’t do this with a business partner, but you can tell a story. Stories are incredibly powerful in shifting someone’s frame of reference. Showing them the potential of an idea, or the positive result in another situation – by connecting it to an emotion – you can cause a shift.

The magical part is that once you change someone’s frame of reference, their mind follows. I’m not a neuroscientist, but I know it works.

Try this simple exercise. Look at the first two images on this post – above. Put yourself in either one of those places, imagine you’ve been there and what it felt like. A cool breeze, a warm gust of wind. It smells like pollen – or dust. Any happy memories? Add those. That’s what its like to be human, to live on the planet.

Then look at the picture below.


Now ask yourself what it feels like to live on this planet. What it means to be human. You should get a different answer.

Change the frame of reference – the mind will follow.

Get Un-Stuck – Focus

September 18, 2012

It’s that time of year – where we realize summer is over and winter is around the corner. Time to organize, plan, and get clear. It only takes one step to get moving towards your goals, but that first step is a doozy.

One trick to taking that first dizzying step is to believe that you don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to know how to do it all – just the first step, and interestingly enough, the second step, and the third – will appear. Yup. I’ve experienced it.

The second trick is to believe that whatever happens – it will be the right thing. Imagine, this means you can’t possibly fail. Wow.

No, don’t think, don’t reflect – just do it. And do it now.

And pretty soon, your life won’t know what hit it.

BUT (and yes, you knew this was coming) – but, before you can take that first step you need to decide on a destination. A focus for your energy. Easier said – than done. Luckily, that’s where a good coach is helpful. Someone who can ask you lazer sharp questions that cut through the fog. Someone who is ready to help you get set up to take those first tough steps.

And then someone who gets to watch you soar…

Passion Discovery & Action Workshops Begin 2012

January 19, 2012

Do you have the desire to fly out of the cage? Spread your wings and sing? Winter is the perfect time to look closely at where we block our own progress, hamper our own happiness.

Workshops like the upcoming Passion Discovery or Passion in Action will put you back in control and get you excited about LIFE again. You can read what others thought and then send me a quick email to register.

Send me an email before February 1st though, or you may not get a seat. (There are only 8!)

What’s Your Truth?

October 6, 2011

This is mine.

I know it doesn’t make sense to you, but it does to me. But that’s how personal truth is for most of us.
It’s personal.
It cannot simply be explained to another. It is complex, dynamic, and full of deep value. Our value.

Sometimes it’s so complex and deep that we can’t even explain it to ourselves. Not in words, anyway.

That’s where images, art, and non-verbal communication comes in handy. I use a fun online tool to work with my clients in transition. Working with the images pulls out some really cool insights!

This collage I did for myself. I get lost sometimes, just like you. And I need a point I can return to and check in. Am I doing what’s important to me? Am I following my truth?

I was inspired to post this by the passing of Steve Jobs, founder of Apple, who said:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”

In honor of Jobs’ commitment to his inner voice, I am offering online sessions using the image tool.

If you feel like you’ve lost that inner voice in the NOISE of the world, let me help you look. It would be an honor.
Contact me for more information and details!

Evolve! Become Fully Human

July 22, 2011

It had to happen. It was inevitable. Change.

But you know what?! You don’t have to do it alone. In fact, there’s a new group in Munich, Germany (its bi-lingual, English/German) that has been started to give women in transition a place to connect, share, and grow – together!

Two other amazing founders and I, got together and decided that what was missing in our corner of the world was an organization that did not just focus on networking business or social  – but did both. And NOT in a serious, programmed, predictable way. Been there – done that.

So, this is what we came up with: Evolve!

It’s our answer to becoming fully what we are meant to be – what we think being 100% human can be. We intend to offer a place to learn, share, and refuel with new ideas, insights.

A kind of Pit-Stop for the Whole Being.

Right now we just meet in Munich, but we’d love to help others who want to do something similar in their area get set up. We don’t charge meeting fees. We just bring in great speakers and ask for donations.

Luckliy, the beauty of evolution is that its organic. If you give it space, time, love and attention, it will grow into what it needs to be. So, for now, we don’t charge fees, but we might in the future. And for now, we are just for women, but that could change.

Its all about co-creation. And the journey together.

Evolution! The End is Not the Goal

June 20, 2011

I am so excited to post that there is a brand new spin on the tool, VisualsSpeak, Exploring New Options. I have been working with this amazing tool for almost 6 years now. Not only are there new images and sets, but its online! I have trained more than a dozen coaches and facilitators around Europe to use this tool and I am thrilled to see that it is now available in an even more flexible format in the virtual world.

As it is based in the U.S. the tool is still set up in English, but the instructions are simple enough for most levels of ability to manage.

Check it out, or ask me to walk you through a sample session!

Time to Wake Up

April 7, 2011

Most people have done this puzzle at some point in their education, at least in North America. The challenge is to connect all 9 dots together using 4 straight lines without lifting your pen (or pencil).

It’s funny, because I ALWAYS forget how to solve this puzzle.

And I like to think I am a creative problem solver!

The trick to following the instructions, is to begin your first line outside of the invisible box created by the dots. The trick to completing the puzzle is to continue drawing your lines outside of the box!

Just imagine what we could create (or solve) if we did the same with our thinking!

What if we decided not to play by the (sometimes invisible) rules, but made our own? I am not talking about the obvious rules we follow to create safety, like stopping at a red light. I am talking about the rules we set up for ourselves.

Those inner boundaries that we set up for ourselves. Think about it.

What could you accomplish if you just thought outside the box?

Celebrate Failure

January 15, 2011

I know that doesn’t sound right. But I mean it. We really don’t appreciate how important it is to fail.

We are all afraid of failing. Either ourselves or someone else. It means disappointing someone, or looking stupid, or wasting time, energy, money – etc. of the important things in life.

Or – does it?!

I recently asked a client to come up with at least 20 reasons failure was a good thing. I asked her to make a ‘Benefits of Failure’ list.  Here are a few of my favorites:

  • failure forces you to be creative
  • failure teaches you that you are soley responsibe for your actions and decisions
  • it might in retrospect make you glad that you failed at something you were not really good at to begin with
  • and might make you find something much better suited for you

In the end, she had the same conclusion that I did. Failure is a good thing because it can force you to think about what it is you really want.

Especially if you stop, and a take a close look at why you failed. Every failure is a chance to learn to do something better. To become better.

So, next time you catch yourself thinking, “Oh, I can’t – what if I fail?!” turn it on it’s head and shout, ‘I can’t WAIT till I fail!’

You might surprise yourself.

Be … You

November 23, 2010

As the holidays are nearing I am hearing a lot of buzzing. Mostly from those who are saying…

Be – Thankful

Be – Careful

Be – Happy

Be – Patient

Be – Productive

And I wonder, can one just BE?

And what would that look like? Boring? Silent? Blank? Nothing? Everything?

Perhaps the important part would be in the doing nothing and paying attention to what happens around you. We all get so busy this time of year, hurrying up to enjoy the season.

But take a moment for yourself. Sit there and breathe. And just BE.